Every year on December 31st and January 1st, we experience the renewed hope for change for a better life and a better way of being as people. When we embrace this chance, we can reinvent our lives and ourselves.
In this first posting of our blog and the New Year, I want to share some thoughts on various ways we might better hold onto that initial resolve. Too often , we lose initiative and determination for our desired changes, and slip back into the same old ways.
1. LET GO
Review the past year and recognize all your accomplishments as well as your perceived failures. Evaluate for yourself what worked, and what didn't, and what needs to change.
Let go of failures
Let go of fears you have built up, or that others have built up for you
Let go of structured ideas of what your life has to be like
Let go of your long-held beliefs and habits
Realize that if holding onto these things worked, or were what is best for you, you would not feel the longing for things to change.
2. DECIDE WHAT MATTERS MOST TODAY
Make a conscious effort to leave the past behind you. If you are consumed by your memories, it keeps you from making your present as wonderful as it can be. Replace memories of the past with hopes for the future.
Don't think about your goals for the year, think about what you want to do today
Don't worry whether this will last for the whole year, or a month or a week
Focus on what you want to do and accomplish today, tomorrow is another day and you can decide what you want to accomplish then
View your everyday life as an adventure . If you change your perception of things, you change the reality.
3. ELIMINATE DISTRACTIONS AND FOCUS
Turn the computer, phone and television off. Sweep the clutter aside or turn a blind eye to it for a while. Above all, learn to lovingly say no, no to others plans, wants and needs. Learn that yours have to at least be equally as important.
Leave the email, phone, internet and social media
Leave the nagging chores and errands
Ignore the clutter that surrounds you
Now find your focus. Maybe you will start small , with only a few minutes at a time. Work up to at least an hour or two. You can take breaks to deal with all the above, after you can feel accomplishment from your focused time. After your break, return to focused time. Soon you will have a pile of accomplishments , and these things will be the things that matter most to you.
4. FIND HAPPINESS TODAY
Follow your own plan in life. Break out of the expected timetable of doing things. ( I.E. School, college, marriage, family ) . If you deviate from that stereotype, maybe you're afraid people will look down on you. Even if you adhere to the plan, but don't quite make the timeline or the markers of others, you might still be looked down on.
Don't look at happiness as something you will experience in the future
Don't look at happiness as a destination
Don't look at happiness as something in the future
Don't procrastinate in having happiness
Stop pressuring yourself to follow the stereotype timeline. Allow yourself to find and pursue what is important to you. Happiness is possible right now, today, right this minute. When you focus on the things that are important to you, happiness is yours now. Always remember also, that happiness is something you achieve for yourself. Others can add to it, and enhance it, but it is something you claim and experience for yourself.
5. REINVENT YOURSELF EVERYDAY
Allow yourself to feel your emotions, all of them. It is called being HUMAN ! Sadness, anger, jealousy and anxiety are every bit a part of you as peace, love, happiness and gratitude are. Practice loving kindness, openness and generosity when you can, just don't expect to be able to provide it 24 /7 , don't beat yourself up when the well is dry.
Every day you are reborn
Each day is a new chapter in your life
Every day is a fresh start, just like on New Year's
Spend each day doing what matters to you, what is most important to you that day. Don't worry whether or not it is the same thing that was number one yesterday.